virgin vs porn

Rite i don tire....same way i tire i begin play lottery...me sef i don tire for this cliche xtian virgin or xtian in general is nt to watch porn.

Like it says in the beginning...

As u grow ure told do not watch porn or God go punish u! Lol...then ure told to be celebate till marriage...and this applies to the guys...somehow this is nt expected of the guys...well thats a topic for another day..

from my experience...

Was told its wrong to watch porn as its not a married couple carrying out the act thus definitely nt bornagain so na evil spirit ...so because theyre nt bornagain peeps having sex it cant be right or holy...

One ure told to be a virgin till marriage?
Two ure told not to watch porn?

So here goes my qs wth! Are u supposed to do wen u get married?! Learn on the job and do the wrong things i.e where to put it and where nt to put it...hmm hmm for the men ...im sure u knw wat i mean...

For the woman...ow on earth am i supposed to knw ow to please my man and the do's and donts...according to my friend there are loads of books out there...reading a book is different from first hand (i dnt mean physically lol) watching ow its done on tv....are there xtian books on how to please ur partner in bed...and the barrage of qs continue...

I got into my marriage nt having a clue..wat a mans pleasure points are now thank God for grace and a patient partner whos willing to do a walkthrough...imagine if he was a virgin as well...of course i wud have to watch porn to learn ow its done....truth is dat its thru porn that i learnt the things i do now...imagine if i never did...my confidence at pleasing my man wud be zilch..

So my people they say i shud be a virgin until marriage ok i gree...been there don dat...they say i shud not watch porn...me i cant fit gree...as long as i dont jerk off which is nt rite i make sure its for the purpose of my marriage and not to fulfill my personal desires to masturbate. it is the only way i cn learn to please my man especially wen hes got AMPLE EXPERIENCES under his sleeve thats made him the man he is today...

So as i walk thru the valley of watching porn
I will fear no evil of feeling inexperienced
For Thou art with me...to put the things i see into practice and perfect them

the new cliche i have been taught to wait and hv waited all my life to have sex and then wen its time to have sex i hv not been taught by my bible or my pastors how to have sex!

age concern

Hold on a minute.....ive always felt like im older than my age ....and i finally found the reason...ive got an added 9months to my age that ive never accepted consciously....

surely the 9months spent in my mothers womb shud be counted...ive always got my age mixed up...wen people ask me i say 23 or 22...and tell them to figure it out 1987 and 2010...wats d diff....the last time i remembered my age was wen i was 21 i guess cos i was doin the big countdown like we all do...and after that my memory has failed me..i feel older and speak older...think older yet im only 23 or 22....not sure...whilst at lectures today im like hold on a minute if im 23 then based on my calculations im 23yrs and 9months old...if an added 3 months were added to that..its 24 yrs old...so for every time its my birthday i shud really add another year to it...

Y's the 9months in the womb not added...dont tell me about conception date..cos it can usually be worked out roughly...so there goes the reason for the constant comment ..."ahh i always thought u were like 25 or 26 yrs old" yes ure rite im close im 24 yrs old not 23 this yr...

and if this theory makes it to the papers...remember barefeet spoke of it on her blog first...!

eh..chai...chineke me..swagaa!

My people i just had to say somein wats this new craze with autotune....all d songs on my hitv channel are all modified with autotune...its like no-ones using their real voice any more...dbanj....wande coal...mohits crew...banky w...djinee...ginger ur swagga peeps the whole crew....even some old man i saw the other day....u cud very well see he was married probably has 3 children at home with the wife.. wearing a creamy straw hat...and was singing in his fifties with autotune...talkin about love and a woman...as we all know thats all they talk about...the famous phrases are... eh..chai....owo....and swagga...those are the most famous phrases on naija songs now

So wat u have is...even conductor sef dey my television dey sing...if u can sing as good as a frog...u can make it on my tv...with the blessing of autotune....mscheww....

In other words wat u need is a catchy beat...loadsa autotune....some money for baffs...or if u no get baffs wear jeans and cap no shirt...just show ur dry chest....or six pack...and there u hv it...a recipe for a naija music video....

Dont get me wrong oo...d music is a lot beta than it used to be wen all we had was plantashun boiz and style plus d end...i love the variety now...but now too many copy cats....and peeps that shud either recognise that singing or rappin aint it...or they shud respect their age...i dont want some old baffoon on my tv...telling me of some omoge that he promises a good time...go and give ur wife a gud time..

i would love to mention names...but i can remember d videos not the names...actually charlie boy...wth Is that nu carolina video about...so doesnt suit his age having thonged butts dancing in his video esp at his age...i dont mind if he remixes d carolina song which came out wen i was like a 3yr old girl...now im old...got a kid and husband and i get a remix of carolina?..

As i was saying i dont mind if he remixes the song...to get some money for his retiremnt...but surely he shud respect his age...and have girls dancing if he insists ...but not naked with thongs and bra's...

anywhoooooo moving on feelin m.i and some other artists,,,who hv a mix of autotune and some good lyrics...not eh and chai..and im on fire with some guy shining torch lite in my eye....talkless of bobie eh...mschew..

eh..chai...chineke me..swagaa!

My people i just had to say somein wats this new craze with autotune....all d songs on my hitv channel are all modified with autotune...its like no-ones using their real voice any more...dbanj....wande coal...mohits crew...banky w...djinee...ginger ur swagga peeps the whole crew....even some old man i saw the other day....u cud very well see he was married probably has 3 children at home with the wife.. wearing a creamy straw hat...and was singing in his fifties with autotune...talkin about love and a woman...as we all know thats all they talk about...the famous phrases are... eh..chai....owo....and swagga...those are the most famous phrases on naija songs now

So wat u have is...even conductor sef dey my television dey sing...if u can sing as good as a frog...u can make it on my tv...with the blessing of autotune....mscheww....

In other words wat u need is a catchy beat...loadsa autotune....some money for baffs...or if u no get baffs wear jeans and cap no shirt...just show ur dry chest....or six pack...and there u hv it...a recipe for a naija music video....

Dont get me wrong oo...d music is a lot beta than it used to be wen all we had was plantashun boiz and style plus d end...i love the variety now...but now too many copy cats....and peeps that shud either recognise that singing or rappin aint it...or they shud respect their age...i dont want some old baffoon on my tv...telling me of some omoge that he promises a good time...go and give ur wife a gud time..

i would love to mention names...but i can remember d videos not the names...actually charlie boy...wth Is that nu carolina video about...so doesnt suit his age having thonged butts dancing in his video esp at his age...i dont mind if he remixes d carolina song which came out wen i was like a 3yr old girl...now im old...got a kid and husband and i get a remix of carolina?..

As i was saying i dont mind if he remixes the song...to get some money for his retiremnt...but surely he shud respect his age...and have girls dancing if he insists ...but not naked with thongs and bra's...

anywhoooooo moving on feelin m.i and some other artists,,,who hv a mix of autotune and some good lyrics...not eh and chai..and im on fire with some guy shining torch lite in my eye....talkless of bobie eh...mschew..

Marriage to Gus?!

This is ow it is ...the question is do i have to get married? Im speaking from the viewpoint of one whos married and yes its that part of u that makes u thoroughly complete yet so vulnerable to a default. Default being it wud always hurt but the good times definitely make up for the bad times. That is if ure with the rite person.

Thats not the case with people who have married for the wrong reasons and kinda wish and hp for a miracle....unfortunately wat u find is entrapment. For me i define mine as love we love each other to a default....wenever we have an arguement u cn see we are tryin to look out for the others benefit and good. 90% of the arguemnts are mostly about ow u care about the other ...and ow u convey that in an arguement is wat makes or breaks d marriage.

I used to be a fan of love is all we need, but abeggi....if theres so much love and no communication forget it....love cannot carry u thru!

Secondly i used to be a fan of love is wat u need in order to marry thats out the window now....compatibility is all ur mentality needs....not compatible and ull go insane cos ud either back down in frustration or be at logger heads....i actually sat down last week and said nawaooo....tru talk there are so many loveless marriages out there...everyones looking for a companion...thats d essence of marriage not love d end....barefeet don talk....

So wen u see me complain about this love tin sef...just leave me o jare...cos then im in the gallows....but then after the turmoil and heartache of love and marriage i find that im walking on the clouds cos im with someone whos compatible and loves me ...which is a bonus...cos i still get swept off my feet which i cnt say for many marriages ....tru tru no one ever says d truth about their marriage....but hey same thing about life u never know wat to expect...u make it wat u want it to be....so according to barefeet truthfully my marriage is wat i make it...ill recommend it cos
its bad... its heart wrenching....its head soaring....its orgasmic.....!

rollercoaster loving to ode loving?!

This love tin sef…I want to say I don tire,,,
But the very reason I tire is wat excites me…
In my favourite phrase “exciting times” and then I rub my hands together
One minute ur heart is bleeding
The next its soaring…
I started out y.day hating myself and wantin my world to end…
Now I feel like yesterday never happened and say nawoo
Im desperately tryin to understand this love tin sef …
But as a woman ure so ruled by emotions


On the other hand I don’t have much to say
Yet I have a lot to say …im loggin on and its like there are no new posts
Im like o…..k where everyone col don catch una…sugarking u just dey put comments I dey wait ur posts na!
GO ON MYNE..awooo! ( ure levels don change now…)
And Juanita and leggy erm that’s all I can remember

Apart from that no one’s writing nothn…well nothing that tickles my fancy
Ok ive got a lil story for y’all lemme knw ur thots its titled

U have to be an ode to get married!

This is a true story and its happening to someone I grew up with..and shes 39yrs old


Sade has had her misfortunes with guys they come along sleep with her and end it with her …the end..
Sha story lead to story and now shes with a guy in London…whilst shes based in Nigeria



Problem 1
She comes over about twice a year to visit but sade stays with her sis wenever she visit she doesn’t stay over at the guys house for wateva reason best known to them

Problem 2
Shes never been to this guys house in the 2 years they been together weneva shes in London they go out for meals etc kill their agro wherever ii don’t have that much detail and she is dropped bk hme at her sisters.

Problem 3
Sade is not introduced to his mother,,,,
This is ow we brought this whole façade to lime light
Her sis that she stays with called her and sat her down u know the naija way

Sade sis; Sade ure goin out with this guy uve never been to his house
Sade; and so its not the most important thing on the list
Sade sis; ow can u be in a relationship with a guy and u don’t know where he lives and u travel all the way from naija to see him
Secondly uve never met his mother or spoken to his mother …and there rumours goin in Festac that the mum doesn’t like u?
Sade; what is ur business let me deal with this the way I know best


The convo ended there and then out of vexation sade pick fone call her bobo

Sade; wen am I comin to see you now…I don’t want to go to another restaurant
Bobo; erm not sure ooo…will let u know im thinking in 2 weeks is that ok
Sade; I guess and erm I remember u told me about ur mum that she stays in London when are we goin to see her


Bobo; erm not sure about that one oo, except u want me to introduce u as my friend to my mother. …But I can’t introduce u as anything else


Sade; Ah y are u speakin to me this way…
Bobo; it’s the truth we got so many problems uve got too many mood swings…and u want us to hop and visit my mum…

That’s ow the first convo ended

Second convo goes like this

Sade; its over 2weeks now I still haven’t been invited to ur house wats happening
Bobo; im thinking we shud even make this our relationship more concrete how about a wedding in august?
Sade; ahh that wud be nice..wat church wud we be having it etc


Third convo goes like this
Bobo; ok im free this afternoon.,. get dressed ure comin to my house
Sade; ah thank God finally she said to herself



They arrive at bobos house at 1500..he tell her to take a sit and he’ll be a minute goes upstairs for about 30 mins comes bk downstairs and says r u ready lets go to bicester.
My people bicester from where he lives is 2hrs journey time
She grudgingly gets in the car says nothing and they arrive at Bicester…
They shop around for another 2 hrs and I mean window shopping…
After a while wen hunger wire sade
She open mouth in vexation and said


Pls do u have £10 so I can buy a drink and some snacks

Na so the guy vex

Bobo; with that ur big bag ure telling me u don’t have £10 If u don’t then me I don’t have
Sade; sha close eye…commot money buy lunch for them

He drops her back home and that was it oo my people…
She began blabbing and telling her sis at home of the story

Sis sade; imagine Ive not eaten all day
He took me to his house and we didn’t even spend time there he goes upstairs and comes back telling me lets go to bicester I thot o…k maybe he wants to take me shoppin
We went to bicester and didn’t spend a dime on me…no food nothing and he has brought me back to ur place….

sade sis; sorry ooo eya erm y u telling me all this ….y didn’t u complain to him?
Sade; I cant tell him na…u don’t know If u want to marry u have to act like an ode?!
Or else if u always tell him ow u feel he’ll think u complain too much?!

THIS IS WHERE MY BRAIN STOPPED FUNCTIONIN! like WTH!


Im sure u guys know where I stand with this guy hes got responsibilities and sade aint one one of his priorities…hes made that known to her but typically shes interpreted that as a positive….pls can someone explain to me is it because of her age that she thinks shes not got a choice anymore thus settling for less and she thinks she needs to be a mugu for the guy to love her? Mscheww…me im not one to hide my feelings so being a fool for a guy so he can love me don’t wrk…I say it ow I feel it…na by force to love?!


let me know wat u think?

Another used to be?

Is it for u to kiss me the same way we did when we first kissed?

Is it ok for u to make love to me like we did the first time?

Is it ok for u to pour out ur emotions to me like u did when u asked me out?

Is it ok for me to be the sole reason y u wake and plan your day cos ure so excited to see me?

Is it ok for u to tell me how much u love me after love making rather than silence?
Is it ok for u to say the right things, rather than be quiet in fear that u might get it wrong?
Is it ok that you plan to spend time with me rather than stumble upon time spent with me?
Is it ok to make love to me with the intent and precision of an assassin?
Rather than with quickly and hurriedly as If u know the end before u began?


Is it ok for u to make promises and keep them?
For the fear of not fulfilling them will mean loosing me?
Rather than act like if u don’t fulfil them theres always another opportunity to do so?
Cos wen we started out u kept every promise for the fear that another guy might step in if u don’t? Now complacency and procastination?!
Is it ok that I dont remain the same whilst all these mishaps are happening?


Cos the thot of me changing is becoming so evident I cant even hide it no more?
Would u be as patient as Ive been... waiting for u to become who u were?
Would u be patient enough to wait for me to return to who I was?
Cos I waited and im still waiting for u ..wud u do the same for me
Whilst I get tired of the unfulfilled promises…the complacency and procastinations?


Would we wait for each other till we return to that which we first loved
Im scared ...would u wait?
R u scared I don’t think so and I don’t think ull wait cos ure a guy…guys don’t wait?! (sigh)