In the Beginning series 3

Have a blast and dont be shy ; this she taught me ...id like to think i learnt from her my humour...and how to make fun of myself cos its not always all about me...


vanity; erm she was one who had birhthamarks that at birth they event thot she needed to see the doctor regarding the scars on her body...only to be told its birthmarks ..not withstanding she still was proud of her skin...and wore makeup only wen she thot it necessary an outing etc...wen running down to the shops she just did it naturally even with the boyfriends that came and went she always presented herself as she was ...although in high school she was called C.M.B (colour me badd) amongst many other things she taught me how to dance to carry myself with guys, and not to settle for less ....although the same cant be said for her...lol


and gpa; not much can be said about him apart  from he worked with one of the famous banks in nigeria and was always into his shares never let money go until u squuueeze it out of him...on the other hand he would rather spend it on cigarettes and the drink ....and as far as i know he might as well have a stick of cigarette in his hand as i type ...


gma; well until 2 years ago i never had a word to describe her ....QUEEN BEE...is the one although that might be thot of as playing it down..she always is involved in everything weddings funerals, naming ceremonies book launch farewell parties cheiftancy tittling the whole shabang....with this brought her a lot of fame and a few friends...and even the few she trusted always did the backbiting ..which then meant she gave up and reclined to friends that were 3 times her age ... this then spilled over to my recent years as the lovely and choking gma i knew became the very reason for the problems i had in my marriage ...the underlying problem not knowing where to draw the line ...or realise that ure no longer my queen bee but theres now an alpha male in my life ...well 2 inclusive my little man (or baba as i call him as he came to take over the role that my father gladly declined) but like i always say theres so many parts to this story that it is necessary i tell the background for you to understand the reasons y i do the things i do today....


she played a vital role as to wat id wanna become as a wife ...but with a lot of the extras she brought i deleted or id like to think i have deleted...i think my husband will be better placed to say this...example being even with the misfortunes that my gpa brought along with himself she always gave him the honour of caring and providing for him ....


example 1
he was going thru a patch in life that meant he was drinking excessively and i mean not indoors but outdoors and he would get so drunk get hit by a car and she would still get him home as per nigerian community news/ gossip goes around more than wild fire...so she heard thru a neighbour n goes to get him ....


example 2
even with his frequent trips to the village which i wudnt name in the name of building the family home hed spend the money on a new found lover of his who made him more okro soup than sense wud permit to his admission...gma finds out and still stuck by him thru all this ...i mean even at an age that u cant be bothered he was like 70 and she was like 60...the new found lover was probably about 45...well ill end his trail by saying it takes two to tango...for a man to cheat it takes a conscious decision on the part of the woman and the man to allow it ...the man must have is reasons for cheating as well as the woman has her reasons for accepting such from him...either ways wetin no good no goood,..


to be continued