MARRIAGE IS SOO OVERRATED!

I even laugh at the sound of the title itself..i guess ill have to leap way forward to my present thots and return to my childhood stories later on. rite we move on i wanted to write about this the moment i felt it in my emotions but could never get round to it...so here we go








dont u just hate it wen u see new lovers all cuddled up kissing at every opportunity and all holding hands and u just know it aint gonna last long...this is my philosophy,...it all dies down in time...not necessarily the love but the need to show u constantly care does die down..






it all starts out with the guy actually calculating and planning the first kiss with you i guess i can say the same for the girl...lol.. he then goes further planning the first date where to take u to ...the way he'll talk probably how much info he's willing to give away...and probably the speech on how to ask u out ...im sure u get the jist..






then he has u ...i dont mean physically (smirks) but i mean as his girl ...then it all goes relaxed..he then has to fit u into his schedule and then probably puts the question forward about marriage...u say yes and it goes down cos now hes mega relaxed...there are two viewpoints that come to play here


1. how the woman sees marriage?






it is said that we all let go of ourselves after a while...but ive come from somewhere that i was never appreciated ...so my little thing in life is always about putting my best in and being remembered as someone who always wanted to go the step






Further..my thing has always been to make a diff and not be like other women who take their husbands for granted after a while and probably stop dressing up all sexy and just letting go of the preps u’d usually go through cos he was comin round to ur place. So for me or wud I say most women it comes to us or we imagine marriage as a safe haven which means we can finally be ourselves with the man in question ….and we can be reassured that hes someone I can count on rather than a boyfriend whos sometimes unavail..now u know hes expected to make himself available to you cos ure married..






We move forward cos hes done a lot of planning before marriage and then he doesn’t have a clue wat to do with u…wat im just tryin to say is wen women get married theres a plan in place as to wat the future holds and wat she plans to do with the man…in regards to how love him pamper him …but with the man I guess they have a vague idea as wat they plan to do BUT they don’t know how exactly they want to do it …






So wat u find is u have a lot of expectation cos u have a picture in ur head and they have expectations but are so relaxed about it cos the picture in their head doesn’t necessarily fall apart if no action is taken. It just means getting to the goal might take a lot longer than anticipated…with the woman she has to get to the goal cos her livelihood and happiness is surrounded by the achievement of the picture in her head,,,






This in other words translates to the man being relaxed cos his livelihood depends on the labour and rewards he brings back home which then means sometimes u get the side seat …this is central to his happiness and for the woman it translates to her working hours on end wanting to spend time with the man and please him but his evidently unavail beit emotionally physically etc…






I think this theory is exactly wat has lead to my belief that marriage is soo overrated cos it doesn’t solve ur problems of security and emotional needs but makes u long and hunger more for ur husband …and on the mans part its overrated cos he kinda imagined ud just tag along till wen hes ready to come to terms with the fact that ure there and two ud hopefully stop nagging whilst he figures out wat picture he wants to put together for u ….






On the other hand that’s wat I felt 3 days ago …well now im thinking religious don’t focus on him and nag at him…this is my new theory wen they get all that attention from ur nagging they feel pressured and feel like ure waiting for them to act….rite leave them to it no nagging find an inner peace within and wat ull find Is he becomes paranoid that ure not saying anything…so tries to find aomethin to do or please u b4 u talk…on the other hand some coconut headed men..wud still not budge these are the ones u need to just let be…like they say let the sleeping dogs lie…let be and let God …only and I say only a supernatural being can fix that planet MARS


SO its not really overrated it is wat it is...that is u make it into wat u want it to be..